If divorce feels more disorienting than you expected, you’re not failing. You’re navigating a genuine skills gap that almost no one acknowledges exists.

Therapy helped me understand my marriage. It did not help me leave it. Therapy alone isn't enough to get through divorce.

Divorcing as a woman is different than divorcing as a man. It starts from the very, very basics — how we socialize women versus men. Divorce for women means getting intimately familiar and acquainted with how we’ve been brought up to take up less space. To acquiesce. To appease. To be the good girl. To cater … to men … and everyone else … especially before ourselves. When it comes to the divorce process, however, this — contortionist us — is not the shape we need to take. Div